As women, we’ve heard plenty of stories of how hard it is to find a good man, the inconvenience of having to share him. A sister shares her experience, which in turn I shared in Full Woman, a magazine pullout in the Saturday Monitor.

On our third date, he told me he was seeing three other girls. This should have sent smoke signals but I decided to look at him as a very handsome challenge. I wasn’t even looking for something serious, so I just smiled, “May the right girl win,” I thought to myself.

It was lots of fun. We saw each other every evening; I started to wonder when he could possibly get the time to see my competitors. However, I did not really want to know nor did I care! He is charming, this man. I started to like him and unfortunately, I got to know of one of my competitors. Well, I haven’t actually met them.

I know he has been seeing one of the girls since 2011. When we had just met, there was no trace of any girl at his place. Suddenly, one of them has started feeling the need to leave her long plastic hair behind. It cannot be mine because I have a “Janet Cut.” I knew not to ask but my curiosity got the better of me, “It’s probably the maid’s,” is how he explained it away.

I suspect that, the 2011 girl is probably the main chic. But three years of whatever relationship she has with my man, there is still a chance I could take her position. It is not hard to believe there are a number of us all over this man. He is quite a catch. Honestly, sometimes I see a bright future then it fades, especially when I come across hairs that aren’t mine. Or when he does not pick up my calls when I want to wish him a good night. “Who is he with right now?” I ask myself.

Then, we meet up and have a wonderful time and suddenly the future is bright again, this time with a set of twins; a boy and a girl, a farm house with a long driveway complete with one of those “Mr Something Close” signage. Oh, the fantasy!
They say a good man is hard to find, and that if you find one, you should hold on to him tightly. This is exactly what I am doing. I am even kind enough to share him for the time being until he comes to his senses and realises I am the only woman made for him, his main chic.

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10 Thoughts to “Side Chic With Main Chic Mentality”

  1. My opinion is that if a womab can get my man’s attention,then she could have him.ofcourse men look at other women, but if I have to wonder where I stand,then I might as well not stand in the relationaship

  2. My personal opinion is that if another woman can get my man’s attention:then she can take him.of course men look,but if i have to doubt where I stand,then I might as well not stand in the relationship.

    1. Ha! Sharon, regardless of how much you’ve invested in the relationship? You wouldn’t fight for your man? At all? I don’t think so!

      1. Okay will give you some tiny tiny credit lol.if he is worth fighting for and staying with,then MAYBE i would hold on,but i guess it will actually take me falling in love to know all these feelings (chuckles)

        1. You and me both my friend 🙂

  3. wadda mutebi

    Guys are generally slow when It comes to commitment though they do not want to admit it. It does not really matter how many girls he is seeing at a time, there will always be that one girl to sweep him off the floor depending on when she beats sense into him. Men have the bragging rights, women have the stick.

    1. LOL at bragging rights and women with sticks. The mental image is to die for! Thanks Wadda! Explains a lot…

  4. Um…I just don’t get it, maybe its because my mother never took crap off any man, if she wasnt the wife, then NEXT…I have been married legally 4 times, and that is because when I’m not considered your only love, then its time to say bye bye, you are in the way of me finding that one man that may be the one that sees me for the prize I am. My cousin asks me one day, how the hell you get married 4 times, and I simply said, I guess its what you want or dont want to be to a man, and I refuse to be the chick in the back of the church if that man dies. I want to be the wife, or NEXT!!! because I am worth it, I dont want to wonder where you are, and fight for you, I am the prize, and as long as you remember that, we can continue to love, but if you forget…NEXT!!!

    1. Wow! Thank you for commenting and sharing Ms. Davis. I’d like to assume that this side chick business is more common in younger ‘girls’ who haven’t discovered their self worth. As we grow older, we realise that we are worth this and that and not that…

  5. […] Following the piece I did early this year on side chicks with main chick mentalities… Please read it here. […]

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